A Better 2017

I went to an event with a few speakers on a subject very interesting to me: Mindfulness.

First time I heard about this is on a magazine, TIME, a few years ago. It doesn’t make much sense to me. A year ago I bumped into a secondary school classmate who is studying this subject and I was still not getting much of it.

Now, it makes more sense to me.

We are living in a world that we constantly using our brain to solve problems. Brains creates thoughts, thoughts creates emotions, emotions creates reactions.

However, the brain can’t solve all them, especially the ones that’s very important to our lives. It often gave us thoughts thus actions that’s not helping us, but destroying our happiness. Changing thoughts and mindsets is the most difficult thing.

Mindfulness is essentially being aware of the thoughts created by your brain, aware of the emotions generates from the thoughts so that better control your reaction to it.

We can’t control the world, but we can control our reaction to it.

After moving to Hong Kong, I love the offering here. However, the negative sentiment towards the future affects the most optimistic, positive person, especially I am not one of them. I constantly feel unfulfilled and insecure. I try to use a lot of ways to deal with it — build a nice home, start a relationship, rekindle with old friends, be more with family, create workout routine, travel thing world, challenge myself with career goals, races and adventures… everything that helps me to have a positive mindset.

They brought me a lot of fun time so I wouldn’t say I failed, more like half failed. I am still unfulfilled, unhappy.

Until I read the book “The Power of Now”. I was constantly living in the past and future. I wasn’t present.

Life will nudge you if you don’t wake up. The book is like a wake up call. At this point, I had a glimpse into being aware of my thoughts because it’s the source of all the emotions and reactions.

Awareness. Presence. Gratitude. Kindness. Mindfulness. By practicing these attitudes I can help myself to live positively.

So I will set the goals and action plans to be a better self in different aspects.

  1. Physical
  2. Intellectual
  3. Emotional
  4. Relationship
  5. Spiritual

There is no finish line

Life seems to be a constant process of this: want, set goal, work work work, get it, let go.

From the grade in school, the approval from your parents and senior, the job or project or new business deal, the girl or boy in your dreams, the large home with 3 bedrooms, the happy family, the social status that people look up to etc etc.

Want is the first step, it’s probably the difficult part because, well, a good start means half of the success. When I grow up I used to hear people around me saying – I don’t know what I want. (Well, I said it too) Want something isn’t exactly easy. It requires understanding yourself and the situation around you.

Then, people who are clear of what they want set a goal. In the Law of Attraction, it’s called “making a wish to the universe”. When you set the goal, you need to come up with a plan to reach it. It’s the part to test if you know yourself or the situation well enough.

Coming up with a plan is creation. A plan needs to be executed and acted upon. Again, is the plan realistically executable? Are you devoted enough to realize it? The difficult part is that you need to give up something to realize it. Most of the time people get procrastinated, because they don’t want to give up their time on crouch or in front of the video game or TV, or the muffin or ice cream, another glass of the drink. At the end of the day it isn’t about the plan or the action, it’s about how much you want it.

There are full of traps on the road to the finishing line, external and internal. The most diligent people may not realize the goal. In Chinese, we say “plan by people, succeed by god”. You need to take a leap of faith. Any success requires taking on the uncertainty. The uncertainty of jumping into the unknown, of falling so hard that you thought you can never get back up again. Without the leap of faith, you will never get there.

When we are running, we endure much pain in the body. Sometimes excruciating and you don’t know why you are doing it. However we keep running because knowing that I am running and enduring the pain makes us feel alive.

“There is no finish line.” One of the famous line and I’ve never understood why this is good. Isn’t that getting there the ultimate goal? Don’t we run for the joy of reaching the finish line?

The real fun is that, it never ends. If you are someone with the drive, after you reach the finish line, you let go of the glory and start running again.

If you never let go, then you are stuck there. No matter how good is it, you cannot stuck at one place for too long. You got left behind if you do.

Life is a journey. Take a breathe, sip some water, let go of the past, get set and run again.

Happiness is knowing that you are always on the way to achieve what you want.